RickawayJE's blog: "From me."

When did common sense become Uncommon? the standard guidlines of self preservation and just pure "dont do that" bits are seemingly slowly easing their way out of our society. The whole "don't touch that, it's hot" part of us seems to majorily be gone nowadays. Maybe its the "group" mentality that masses of people get into when they cant remember how to think for themselves. Why do we get stuck in situations that we know from the getgo are dumb? Be it, don't cross the street without looking both ways, or getting with the guy who cheated on and left the gf he "loved" to be with you...thinking he's not going to do it again. Some situations that people get into that other people, when told about them, just go..."really?!... like, are you serious? What were you thinking?!" those situations that elicit those responses... are brough on by lack of common sense. Seriously, where do our heads go? I'm not attacking anyone in particular of it too, I'm bereft of common sense at times as well. far too often for my liking. I'm just curious... where does our sense go!?

How often do we live our lives in mediocrity? We run our day to day like hamsters on a wheel, always going but getting nowhere. Why do we convince ourselves to just...exist, to live grow old and die, without making a lasting impact on the people or world around us? Imagine how the world would be if we ALL strived to the uppermost limits of our individual potential, what do you think we would find? I personally believe that we would find out that our potential is limitless. We as humans, can always DO more acheive greater things. We are only limited by our own preconcieved notions of what we can or cannot do. True things like the laws of physics restrict us, but there are always loopholes. Man can't POSSIBLY fly right? well, airline travel is more popular than ever. Man can't POSSIBLY breath underwater. Rebreathers' beg to differ. Man cant POSSIBLY turn into woman. Transexuals. only thing they can't do is have babies and i'm sure thats being addressed. Anything is possible. If everyone had that attitude at all times... whose to say we wouldnt be living in a utopia, hunger, global warming, the ozone etc would all be finished. So why accept mediocrity in our lives?

What defines Intelligence? What defines Beauty? 
Intelligence is defined as : A very general mental capability that, among other things, involves the ability to reason, plan, solve problems, think abstractly, comprehend complex ideas, learn quickly and learn from experience. It is not merely book learning, a narrow academic skill, or test-taking smarts. Rather, it reflects a broader and deeper capability for comprehending our surroundings. 
Beauty is defined as :The characterization of a person as “beautiful”, whether on an individual basis or by community consensus, is often based on some combination of Inner Beauty, which includes psychological factors such as personality, intelligence, grace, politeness, charisma, integrity, congruity and elegance, and Outer Beauty, (i.e. physical attractiveness) which includes physical factors, such as health, youthfulness, facial symmetry, averageness, and complexion. 

Quite often we as a society in our "stereotypes" assume that these two things are mutually exclusive. Is it possible for a physically "beautiful" person to be intelligent as well? yes it is. 

Is it because of "celebrities" that arent actors (cause face it, actors have to be reasonably intelligent...else they wouldnt succeed at all), ie Paris Hilton's a popular one... that tend to flaunt cluelessness? 

Just because someone is beautiful, by society's standards doesnt make them automatically a blithering idiot as many people tend to think. I have three examples off the top of my head that I know personally. 

subj A) 31 yr old female, call her... BK. Born in kinda the slums of maui(as hard as that might be to believe) whole family trapped in a house till she was old enough to go to college. Beautiful woman by any standards. Did modeling to get herself through college, graduated top of her class, went on to be VP of a fortune 500 company. 

Subj B) 24 yr old Female, call her Maggie. From the Bronx NYC. Grew up on the streets hard life as far as i know. INCREDIBLY beautiful. could easily be a model or one of those "hiphop honeys" and have fame and fortune. But no, shes not taking it easy. She's actually bettering herself through education to be a Criminal Defense Lawyer. Not for the money, but because she's seen injustice in her life and she wants to correct it as best she can in her own way, by defending people who might not be in the wrong. 

Those are just two, blatant examples. That i know personally, i think the world of both those women. They're street smart, and booksmart and pretty enough to put beyonce, vida guerra, gabriel union, aaliyah whomever you can think of, to shame. Just because i didnt mention someone doesnt mean i think they're unattractive or nonintelligent. just means I wanted to use the two BEST examples i know of. I have more respect for those two women mentioned than most people i know. 

Don't take beauty for granted. Dont take intelligence for granted. Don't underestimate anyone, you can always be proved wrong and look like a jackass. Just cause someone isnt attractive, dont make them dumb, or vice versa. Just cause someone isn't book smart, doesn't mean when it comes to being streetwise that they're not a genius. and again, or vice versa. Never take anyone for granted and always leave room to be surprised. You might just be pleasantly surprised.

No one is perfect. Noone can HOPE to be perfect. Those that believe they are and act like they are, are delusional. Those are usually the people that look down upon and use others, but that's not what this is about. 

While it is impossible for one person alone to be perfect, I firmly believe that two people, together, can acheive this. When your with a woman and you are in love with her, then that love you have will envelope her and fill in all the cracks and imperfections in her being, same as hers should do for you, essentially making you, together, one perfect person. Love can remove all blemishes and failings. From the Bible love is: Peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. If both of you exhibit these not only to each other at all times as best as humanly possible, but also to those around you... your love will make both of you, perfect.

his is mainly addressing an issue that's been cropping up more and more. People outright rejecting me cause I'm 1) a white guy 2) "too" nice and 3) i'm not a "thug". Basically if you reject me for those reasons, awesome for you, don't really need you anyway. 

Truthfully I have no desire to be a "thug". Most the ones that i've met in my life are wannabe cowards. And i'm sure i'm stereotyping a good bit, but running around threatening other guys cause you may be cut, carry a gun in your pants and beat your girl dont make you a man. and DONT come at someone like that if you have no idea what they've done, or what they're capable of. Don't be petty, dont fly off teh handle cause you "think" someone disrespected you or one of your girls or hos or however you treat them, just cause they said "hi" to them. I mean really? are you that insecure with yourself. go work out some more dick. If i really wanted your girl, I have no doubts i could have her. Cause unlike the majority of "thugs" I've actually done shit in my life. I've walked streets with a "gat" strapped to my leg, I've shot at AND killed the people i shot at, I dont miss a target. I dont threaten with useless words. 

I speak proper english, I dont threaten, I dont hit women, I treat my woman correctly at all times as best as I can manage. Yeah I'm white, i'm southern get over it. If you dont like white guys fine, thats on you and your preference, but just cause i'm pale Dont think I cant hold my own or that i'm a pussy just cause of it. 

Basically, I dont pretend to be a bad ass. I follow the Motto: "walk softly and carry a big stick". I know how to use that stick. 

In closing. Dont threaten me or mine, I dont take kindly to it.

This is mainly for any guys... 

Never ever begin to believe that you deserve your woman. You can be a good guy or a shitty guy... but as long as you treat her right thats what matters. The instant you start believing that you deserve her, thats the instant you run the risk of taking her for granted. Always treat her right by every day working more and more to earn her. When she chose you, think of it as you going into debt and you pay it off, each and everyday based on how you treat her.

IF you think about joining the army, let me tell you something straight up. Do NOT go around telling freakin war stories before you actually do anything. IF you join the National Guard or Reserves... kudos to you but you're not automatically the shit. yeah you're a "soldier" one weekend a month...cool. You have no idea what its like to be active to live and breath the shit every single day. so if your'e fixing to go to basic and expecting everyone to shower you with money and gifts and spoil you and shit thats fucking ridiculous and selfish. you're joining for the wrong damn reasons. "im going into the reserves, spoil me" wtf. show some damn respect to your uniform you MIGHT be wearing IF you graduate, the flag on your shoulder, the name on your left breast and maybe you'll make a decent soldier. Show respect for those that currently serve and those that have come before you. You're inheriting THEIR legacy. its not yours till you earn it.

The worst thing, anyone, that you really like, can possibly say to you is, "you're a really great person, you have everything anyone could ask for, you will make someone very happy some day"... what the hell? if you think that much of "me" to say that, then why do i gotta wait till "someday" to make someone happy? why cant i make you happy now? where's the sense in that.

Why do people got to go off on the "fuck everyone, fuck the world, fuck fuck fuckity fuck fuck" tangents? Do you realize how ignorant and unattractive that makes you appear? Yeah people screw other people over, its a sad fact of life in the world and societies we live in. Does it make you feel better... good or "cool" to walk around with the proverbial middle finger stuck up and in the face of everyone else around you? So someone stole your boy or your girl... who cares? if they ran of with that other person then obviously they didnt care about you anyway and werent worth your time or effort. you really wanto give those cheaters a mind fuck? thank them. tell them thankyou for showing who they really are. people at school or work hate you... ignore them. thats the easiest way to disempower a bully. give them NO attention. if you get mad about it. come home. call a friend or something... but show nothing at the place and remove yourself from the situation no matter how much it hurts.