Remember the Brain is the Biggest Sex Organ
If you want to turn your woman into a sex freak, first of all remember that you’re a man, not a dog. You’ve got a brain so start flexing it. If your woman’s given you a reason why she doesn’t want to get it on as often as you do than listen to her. No matter how much you feel her reasons for not wanting to have sex have absolutely nothing to do with sex – listen to her.
Why? Because that’s one of the major things women complain about in men, that we don’t listen.
Yeah, okay, maybe she is an uptight bitch at times, maybe she does go on and on about the most inane things, maybe she can be annoying as hell – but so can you. And you know exactly when you’re pushing the line, slacking off on your part of the bargain, forgetting to take out the trash, forgetting to let her know when you’ll be home, forgetting the stuff she asked you to pick up at the store – or maybe you make snide comments, and little digs. This isn’t about becoming her trained lap dog; it’s about being a man and owning your responsibilities. Do what you say you’re going to do and you’ll experience a much happier woman.
Okay, so taking responsibility brings you to a nice even keel, but now you’ve got to move into serious seductive thinking mode to move her from fine, happy, and content, to a raging sex freak. Here’s how it’s done:
Keep Her on a Low Boil to Turn Up the Heat
Stop trying to go from zero to 60 in the sex department. That’s the wrong approach to creating a sizzling sex life with a woman. They just don’t get fully turned on as fast as we do. What you need to do is to slowly build up her sexual momentum to a nice steady boil (think sex freak mode) and keep her there. That’s right. Your goal isn’t for one night of amazing sex, it’s for a new lifetime together of amazing sex, so think long-term dude. Think lifetime sex freak.
Be Generous with Your Compliments (With Your Wife / Girlfriend)
Sad but true, most women, even totally hot babes, don’t have great self-esteem. They view their luscious curves not with admiration, but with critical eyes that constantly seek out flaws. And guess what? If you try and compliment many women (wives, girlfriends) they won’t accept it. They’ll tell you you’re wrong, an idiot, are blind – but do it anyway. Compliment her until she hears you, compliment her until she totally gets that you aren’t scrutinizing her ass for cellulite when you gaze longingly at her naked form, you’re wishing she’d get back in bed.
Tease to Please
Make it a game to keep her thinking about being a sex freak. The more she ponders and imagines it in fun and exciting ways the more she’s going to want to do it. But don’t be overt and obvious, don’t hit her over the head with your desire – instead do your research and think of ways to get her thinking about sex without it seeming obvious that it’s what you’re after. For example you might take her out shopping in an area where you know there’s a new lingerie store and pretend to be spontaneous and say “let’s buy you something new.” Or you might plan a night to stay home together and watch your favorite hot “R” rated movies (you each have to do your research separately and narrow it down to your favorites by the end of the week), or tell her to get totally dolled up for a special night on the town and surprise her with a night of dinner and dancing at one of the hottest clubs (that’s the thing about hot clubs, you can almost always get in with a dinner reservation). Women love to contemplate and plan, and the sexier the subject you have her contemplating the hornier she’ll get.
Create the Right Atmosphere
The right atmosphere for creating a sex freak isn’t only a physical place with candles and clean sheets; it’s also a mental state. You need to let her know that you are a totally safe place for her to open up and discover her sexuality with, or share what she’s already discovered on her own. If you really want her to push the envelope and let out her inner vixen you’ve got to show her that you’re ready and willing to play along. So that means no dissing the ideas she comes up with, but rather listening with an open mind and getting into a “give and take” mentality. So yeah, that might mean toys, and it might mean that if you want her to wear the PVC mini dress and play dominatrix than guess what? You’ve got to be open to being tied up.
It’s All About the “O”
Oh sure a lot of women will lie straight to your face and tell you that an orgasm isn’t as important to them as it is to men, there are even popular advice books that say the same thing. Don’t believe them. But here’s the deal – you can’t give her an orgasm, and you can’t chase after an orgasm for her, the two of you have to create them together. The problem with women not having orgasms as often as men, especially during intercourse, is that the start going through the motions only for the man, and then they start to resent him, and that’s when the headaches appear. So take notes here: A sex freak for a woman needs to experience orgasms. Without the orgasms, you lose the sex freak.
If you suspect that your gal has been telling fibs about how/when she orgasms have a serious chat with her outside of the bedroom. Let her know that you don’t want her pretending or performing for you, what you want is to find out exactly what needs to happen in order for her to be lost in bliss. The more she understands that the idea of getting her to the point of being crazy with pleasure totally thrills you, more okay she’ll be about being honest with what she needs.
