After dennis and I split up we were friends. our friendship was prety good, although rocky seeing how he's my ex. We were able to have cook outs (him, me, the girls, and Adam, my fiance), and hang out, and I enjoyed it. Although he now states he didn't like it, because it felt awkward. He then started seeing some chick from halfway across the country. It was an online relationship. Never actually met. And shit got started and it was nothing but a fight between her and I because of this shit she pulled and said. Well, during all of this, dennis was saying hateful things about me... I mean truly downright hateful things to me... he was attacking me as a person, attacking my postpartum depression I had after alexis was born, and even went as far to attack my parenting skills. She was also relentless in the things she pulled. I told him I no longer wanted his friendship due to the bullshit things he said and did, and the bullshit things he let her say and do to me. Now, all of a sudden, he wants us to be friends again. Mind you, I'm not blameless. I talked some hardcore shit to his little girlfriend and got downright cruel. My question is, is my decision to longer be involved with him (our friendship) appropriate? The constant fighting and bullshit drama was affecting my children, and I felt it was best to just walk away. He says I should suck it up and get over the things he said and did. I want to avoid any future bullshit. For my sake, and my children. Did i make the right decision?
I mean, he sits there and says the only reason he even talks to her is so he can feel like he did when I was still with him. he said, verbatim "She has the same glimmer in her eyes that you had when we got together". He admits she is nothing but a rebound. And he knows they aren't a real couple or going to last. He point blank has said she is a filler... for his time and emotions. He's still hurt that I left him, so he's lashing out in every way he can, and using her to fill the space for now. Which, I don't care. It's her that will get hurt, and frankly, i'll laugh my ass off....
But can someone really just forgive and forget?? Can a person really just get over that shit? I mean, he was cruel and heartless. Why should i just pretend he never said it and be friends??? Advice please!!