Falling's blog: "Cunnilingus Licking & Eating Pussy"

A few important tips:

Use sugar-free cough drops. N'ice is a great brand, especially the menthol or mint versions. If possible, find one (whatever brand) with both menthol and mint. It's actually possible that sugar cough drops are just fine, or even better...the debate is over whether the sugar might feed an already existing yeast infection. The things I've heard from semi-expert (medically) people are that it may feed one (and thus aggrevate it), that it actually will protect from yeast infection (I forget the reasoning, it may have been a Ph thing), or that it's not the kind of yeast that eats sugar anyway. One thing's unanimous: sugar cough drops won't make any difference unless you're already infected, they don't carry that kind of yeast. In fact, a human's fingers or tongue would be more likely to (and even that is pretty unlikely, if they're of even typical cleanliness).

Let the drop become even more rounded and smoothed by sucking on it for a while, if you're actually going to apply it inside (which is the most effective way).
Speaking of which, the best thing to do is actually insert it with your fingers. This only works if you're going to be using your fingers during the cunnilingus, though an alternative is to leave it there for a while and then engage in coitus, which can be pretty nifty for both parties.
If not insertion, the best way is to simply suck on it and then, with cough-droppy saliva, lick her as you would have done anyway,perhaps using the Alphabet method. This isn't quite as amazing, but is still pretty good.
Altoids are supposed to be pretty good, but they're very powerful. I haven't yet verified whether they work, though Don & Mike (Radio Gods) unintentionally made a big deal of it recently. They admitted they were working from a position of ignorance, much like their reviews of movies they have never seen.
Don't forget to try breathing on, or blowing lightly on, her vagina/clitoris. The effect is more subtle until you try this... it's the exposure to air that makes it especially tingly.
When Christmas time rolls around, some stores sell a kind of candy cane that's over an inch thick and six or eight inches long at the straight part (it may not even have the hooked part at all).
Take one end of that, and suck/lick it until it is more rounded and smooth, and you have one of the most entertaining objects you might ever insert in your lover's vagina. It has that special minty feeling, like a cough drop but milder, and is the approximate size/shape of a penis.

Butt-Free Anal Stimulation

I like making up titles.

The vagina actually shares a wall, on one side, with the rectum. Not only does this mean that sexual stimulation is possible from anal entry (which is a whole separate page), it also means that a similar sensation can be acheived without ever touching her butt (not that there's anything wrong with that...heh) by stimulating the side of her vagina where it shares nerves with her rectum. This is more or less the exact opposite, one hundred eighty degrees around, from the g-spot. In other words, if you were to reach in and arch your finger to touch her g-spot, then rotate your hand to face the exact other direction and make a similar (but flatter) motion, you've got the right area. Common sense should tell you where I'm talking about, anyway, since it's the area where it would touch her rectum, inside.
It rarely works well to stimulate this early on...usually you need to not only build up to it, but even get her pretty excited and sensitive first. This is not only to make the area more receptive, but also, in some cases, so that she will be beyond any danger of distraction over the tabooness of how it feels somewhat like you're stimulating her anally.
Press more with the length of your finger, not the tip. This works best, in many cases, as a change of pace, not the main attraction. Which leads us to...

Around the World -- or the Sea, Anyway

Once you have your lover "used to" the whole g-spot stimulation thing (she will actually get "better at" cumming from g-spot stimulation, the more it's done to her), you can try, occasionally and for variety, stimulating her g-spot until she starts to really respond, then switching back and forth between pushing (as gently as normally necessary for that particular lover) her g-spot and pressing the length of your finger on the opposite side, as per the last section. Sometimes you can even get to the point of doing one press on one side, one on the other, back and forth, which can feel amazing and a bit "what on earth are you doing? No, I didn't say to stop" to her. Most likely, though, it'll work better if you switch every several seconds, not every time you press.

Around the World -- Part II

I should not fail to mention the cervix. You may not have even noticed it, by touch, but it's there and once you find it you'll wonder how you missed it (unless your lover has had histerectomy, in which case it's missing, no big deal). This is yet another area where you definitely want to build up to stimulating, as it can actually be painful to even touch if she's not excited enough...but, despite assumptions to the contrary, it can be very useful for stimulation, done correctly.

As I said, issue #1 is that she must be very aroused. Well, bearing in mind that everyone's different, of course.

The Cervix is also about 180 degrees around from the g-spot, but it's in much deeper (typically). It leads back to the rest of her reproductive organs, like the womb. If she's pregnant, don't mess with this at all. Watch out, too, for IUDs and diaphrams and the like. Hopefully you are on good enough terms with her to already know if she's using one of these contraceptive devices, which fit over the cervix.

The cervix is not an abtract "area", it actually juts up, like a little flesh mesa or something. It has an opening at its very "peak", but this is normally closed pretty tightly.

The best way to start is to gently caress around the sides and base of the cervix. Remember, she should already be very "hot" before you even start this part. Eventually, build up to circling it with one or two fingers, around and around, gently staying in contact with it so she can feel the motion through the cervix itself. How hard you can press depends a lot on the specific woman. This is also something that probably works better as a change of pace, not the "main course" of the cunnilingus session...unless she really gets into it.

That circling motion may get another round of "what on earth are you doing...hey! Don't STOP doing it!".

You may even, and in my experience this rarely works, but works well when it does, be able to press directly on the tip, with your finger or fingers, pressing it the way a penis might if one happened be entering her at the right angle to hit her cervix.

Ok all done.

Preparing for Cunnilingus

Receiving It
Many women are conscious of the way they taste and smell to their partner. There are also a good number of men who are borderline as to whether they like the taste and smell of a woman. If you know your partner has a preference one way or another, it's a good idea to indulge it. If you're not sure, you should take some extra steps to make sure that your lover gets as positive an experience as possible. The rewards are obvious.

A thorough cleaning is a must. You may also want to carefully dab a little perfume on your inner thighs. Be very careful not to get any into the vagina as this can be very painful. Just a hint of a good smell on the way in is all they'll need to reach the promised land.

Make sure your partner knows that how much you'll enjoy it and how hot it gets you. There's nothing better than an eager partner. Tell them how good they are at it. Mention their "silver tongue", oral stamina or perfect technique for encouragement both before your session and during its early stages.

Giving It
Depending on your preferences, you'll probably want to do something to get your partner cleaned up before the session. A shower or bath is preferable, but even a couple of minutes in a pool or hot tub can do the job nicely.

Since many women are self conscious about their taste and smell, make sure you tell them how much you love her taste. Tell her your mouth is watering at the very thought. Mention how much you love to lick away at her clit. The more comfortable she feels about having you go down on her, the more relaxed she'll be. It's much easier for a woman to orgasm when she's relaxed.

Before heading for the promised land, make sure that your body is positioned to that you can be comfortable there for 10-15 minutes. Avoid Twister like positions where your whole body is straining to keep you balanced. Also, try to avoid straining your neck too much, as this can get uncomfortable very quickly. Since women need fairly constant stimulation, you don't want to be repositioning every couple of minutes.

How to Perform Cunnilingus

Most women love receiving it; all claims to the contrary, few men love giving it. I know one man who absolutely refuses to perform cunnilingus on his girlfriend. "It tastes like fish," he says, wrinkling his nose, "and it takes her too long to come." Another friend, a gentleman who expects fellatio on a weekly basis, tells me he doesn't have to perform cunnilingus on his wife because he's able to give her orgasms during intercourse. Some women won't consider dating a man if he refuses to go down on her. "I always make sure to ask for cunnilingus the first time we get naked," says another friend. "That way if he says no, I can stop dating him before we get too serious. I'm not going to spend my life giving and never receiving!" Men complain that it takes too long, is uncomfortable and tastes funny. Women complain that they don't get it as often as they'd like, and when they do get it, the guy doesn't usually do it right. Ah, cunnilingus: the relationship deal breaker.

The ABC's of Cunnilingus

While every body is different, a few basic things remain the same:

Share a shower together before you begin so neither of you have to worry about unpleasant tastes or odors.
Ask your partner what she likes. At the very least, she can say things like "harder" or "slower" or "more circles."
Fill your own mouth with saliva first. Never touch or lick the clitoris with a dry finger or tongue.
Know where the clitoris is but don't dive straight for it. First try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva.
Tell her how good she looks, smells and tastes.
Think variety. If you repeat the same motion, your partner becomes temporarily insensitive to it, so be sure to vary your stimulation.
Let your hands roam. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two. Once she is highly aroused, you can stimulate the clitoris more directly.
Gentle insertion of a finger into the anus can send a woman into paroxysms of delight. If she doesn't like it, she'll tell you soon enough.
Continue to fondle and hold her as she orgasms and after.
The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire penis. Be gentle.
Unlike men, many women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm. Keep it going until she begs you to stop.
These suggestions should give you a start, but experiment and see what you and your partner enjoy. The greatest tip of all is to relax and enjoy yourself. Enthusiasm goes further than even the best of techniques!

Muff Diving Made Easy

Again, every body is different. However, some variation on the following plan should work wonders.

Set the scene with candles, fresh flowers, incense, soft music... whatever she prefers. Your thoughtfulness will surprise and delight her.

Make sure she's comfortable. Encourage her to recline on the bed. Place a few pillows behind her head. Make sure she isn't cold.

Don't dive directly for the muff; spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts and belly. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Tell her how beautiful she is. Move down between her legs and gently kiss, blow, stroke and nibble her belly, inner thighs and hips.

When she's breathing heavily, gently spread her legs and kiss her pubic mound. Nuzzle around for a few minutes, spending time with the different parts of her vulva. Pay attention to her breathing; when she breathes faster, she's enjoying herself more. Take note of what she likes and repeat it.

When she sounds highly aroused--she may be wiggling around a bit, as well--spread her labia and gently kiss and tongue her clitoris. Don't pry the clitoral hood back unless she instructs you too--the clitoris is highly sensitive.

Lick and nuzzle the entire area: vaginal opening, perineum, inner labia and clitoris. If she says or otherwise indicates that she particularly likes what you're doing, spend a little time there. But not too much time--the vulva can become desensitized very quickly.

Wrap your arms around her hips, cupping her buttocks, and get to work on her clitoris. Apply firm pressure with the tip of your tongue in a circular motion. Be patient: you might be here awhile. If she's not responding to the clitoral pressure you're exerting, try some variations. Try tracing the letters of the alphabet across her genitals and clitoris. Try inserting your tongue into her vagina (some women dislike this intensely, so pay attention to her response or just ask her if she likes it). Vary speed, pressure and intensity. Try inserting your fingers or a sex toy into her vagina or anus. Be creative.

When you hear rapid heavy breathing and feel her body start to tense up, she's really enjoying the stimulation you're giving her. Whatever you do, don't stop doing what you're doing. She's about to have an orgasm.

Continue to stimulate and hold her while she climaxes. Be warned: women have much longer orgasms than men ... and can experience waves of orgasms that last several minutes. Let her enjoy herself and continue to stimulate her until she lets you know you can stop.

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