Here's the thing. Are you ready for the thing?
My son, DeMarcus, lives about 45 minutes south of Tucson. He will be 13 on December 30th. (Trivial information but needed to understand the following conversation.) My son was with me for the four day weekend and because he was in trouble (long story, he is his father's son)he had nothing to do but talk to me.
DeMarcus: Dad, how do you know if someone is beautiful or not?
Me: Well, it's really up to you and what you like.
DeMarcus: What do you like?
Me: I like a girl who smiles. Life is too short not to enjoy life and I like to enjoy it with those that know how. A woman can be the most beautiful woman on the planet but if she can't smile she's not attractive.
DeMarcus: What's the difference between beautiful and attractive?
Me: Beauty is a personal ideal. Attraction has to fit that outline and the subtle gray areas.
DeMarcus: Whatever. Then what's sexy.
Me: Sexy is not a look it is an attitude.
DeMarcus: What?
Me: You can be attracted to a woman you think is beautiful but if she doesn't hold herself with confidence she still might not be sexy. What's with all the questions?
DeMarcus: I like this girl but my friends make fun of her.
Me: Why?
DeMarcus: They say she's ugly.
Me: Do you think she's ugly?
DeMarcus: No.
Me: Do you like spending time with her?
DeMarcus: Yes.
Me: Do you want your friends to date her?
DeMarcus: That's dumb.
Me: Then don't worry about what your friends think. You you like her and you think she's beautiful. The only thing that should matter to you is what you think and what she thinks.
That is the conversation and it's true. The wonderful things about sites like these is that it gives people the opportunity to be who they are with a cerain level of emotional safety. It allows people to express themselves and find others who share in the same expressionas and opinions from politics to beauty. Be who you want to be and like who and what you like and don't make apologies for either.
