here is my 'Letter to Homewreckers' (and you know exactly who you are):
Maybe you didn't know there was someone else at first. Maybe you had suspicions that you weren't the only one, but you couldn't confirm it right away. But soon you knew for sure. There was no denying it. Or maybe you knew right from the start, but just didn't care. Or could it be that your self-esteem is in the toilet and you are so desperate that you will take any attention from anybody?
Or perhaps you knew your 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' was married and that knowledge intensified your twisted attraction and desire to become involved. If you are enticed by the 'thrill' of sneaking around and living the 'dangerous' life of 'dating' a married person, you need to seriously consider the type of person you are. It's sad and scary that sharing someone gets your adrenaline pumping.
Or, have you convinced yourself that he or she truly loves you and is 'trying' to end things with the spouse so that he or she can be with you and the two of you can ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after? Wake up! What makes you think that a man or woman who would cheat on the spouse and jeopardize the family is a good person that actually cares about you? Even if he or she ever did leave the spouse, do you really think he or she would be faithful to you? You are truly deluding yourself if you think this is even a remote possibility.
It would be different if you were clueless and had no idea that the person you are seeing had a significant other and family at home. But you do know. You know and yet you do not care. You do not care about yourself or the innocent spouse and child(ren) that are being hurt by your selfish and disgusting behavior. How can you sleep at night knowing that you are involved with someone that has a husband or a wife and child(ren)?
Have you stooped so low as to contact, insult, or harass the spouse? How can you justify taking out your jealousy and misdirected anger on that innocent spouse who has done absolutely nothing wrong in this whole sticky mess? How can you convince yourself that he or she 'deserves' to be cheated on for being 'stupid' and not leaving? No innocent person 'deserves' to be mistreated. Did it ever occur to you that even if the spouse does know about you, simply getting a divorce isn't always an easy option, especially when child(ren), family, history, and feelings are involved? Leave the spouse alone!
No matter what your 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' has done or said to convince you otherwise, as an adult, you should be able to see right from wrong and make decisions for yourself and know that you are not living right.
Why are you settling for leftovers? Why are you satisfied with being with someone who is spending every major holiday with someone else? Doesn't it bother you that your 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' is buying someone else Valentine's Day gifts? Why do you care about someone who is saying 'I love you' to someone else?
Even if you don't care about the spouse or child(ren) you are hurting or the family you are helping to tear apart, have a little self respect and care about yourself! I am sorry if this seems harsh, but it's meant to be. And if nothing I have said resonates with you, and you plan to continue to point the finger of blame and sneak around with married people, my final word to you is: karma!
