lowman's blog: "I'll try this too..."

So, my six string bass just went up on E-bay. It's a sad day for me, but I have to get rid of the rest of my guitars. Hopefully I'll make enough to get ahead on my bills, as that's the only reason I'm selling them. If anybody is interested in a 6-string fretless bass, shoot me an e-mail. Everybody else, please mourn with me as my financial freedom dies.

I don't know about you guys, but I love seeing peoples' tattoos. Some are interesting and some are fantastic. I like checking them all out. I wanna put up a tattoo gallery of the best tattoos on Fubar. Send me a message with a link to your picture and I'll pay 100 "fu-bucks" for it. Of course, credit will be given and I'll even advertise your page. Let's see those tats!

In reference to my last "blog" entry about confronting people, I'd like to point out situations where it is, in fact, okay to confront other people about issues. Theft: If somebody is stealing your stuff. From your apartment, your car or your person. Cheating: Only if it's YOUR wife/girlfriend/significant other. Endangerment: If somebody is putting you in danger, physically. Drunk driving, brick tossing, sloppy use of nunchucks, etc. Distruction of Property: Self explanitory. Throwing stars in your walls, car driven through your front door, Pittsburg Steelers practicing in your rose bushes, etc. Abuse: One time only. If somebody you know is being abused, talk to them about it. Friends, family, etc. Tell them they don't deserve it, give them options and solutions. Don't use threats against the abuser, that doesn't work. Threatening to kill said abuser will usually just put the person on the defensive. Also, it could put your friend/family member in danger. A lot of times people who abuse physically are cowards so if they are confronted and threatened they will usually take it out on the person they were abusing to begin with. Again, one time shot only. If they don't listen it's not worth going back into everytime. People have to help themselves. Addiction: If a friend or family member is addicted to something (i.e. gambling, alcohol, meth, polar bear wrestling) try to be there for them and see if they really want to change their life. If they don't they won't no matter how much you try to help them. One time shot only. If they don't want to quit stay away from them. Most often when people ask "should I confront them?" they are not referring to these situations. It is usually some minor offense or wrong doing (friend is cheating on her boyfriend, wife's friend is kind of a bitch, brothers dog pees too much, etc). These kinds of situations are best to avoid, just because they are rarely resolved well and cause more problems then solve. In most cases, the offending person should only be confronted once and then just avoided to reduce stress on your own life. Even if they are your "best friend" or your "one true love." Sometimes people change for the worst and aren't worth holding on to.

Okay, after about the thousandth time of reading/hearing about situations where somebody wanted to "confront" somebody else about something (you all know what I'm talking about, "friend is lying" or "sister is cheating" that sort of thing) I started to realize something. Most of the people saying things like "I should confront them" or "I want to confront them" are the same people who complain about "drama." You have too much "drama" in your life? Well try not putting your nose in other peoples' business. There is no need to confront somebody on something that is none of your business and sometimes there is no need to constantly point out when people do things you don't like. And yes, that counts even if it "makes you feel really bad." Trust me people, you know your friends and family well enough. You should know when "confronting them" will cause more problems than it solves so why not keep it to yourself? Does anybody else agree with me?