MBHarleyMan's blog: "In Honor of a Woman"

I have laid in bed at night and watched her sleep. I hear the cute little noises, her sighs, the times when she wakes up JUST a little bit, stretches out then goes back to sleep.

It's at times like this I reflect on Dee, my woman, my lover, my wife, my best friend, and my one constant in my life. When all else fails I can count on her to be there.

I am taking THIS time to reflect back on Dee's and my life together and how it all came to pass and why fate brought two souls together so late in life. This is "In Honor of a Woman"

I won't go into vivid details on how Dee and I first met and much of our personal lives outside of the fact we met in an online chat room back in 1997 that was a group of people from the city in which we lived. This group of people would meet once a month for dinner or at a bar for a get together. I found Dee to be fun and so full of a happy spirit she lit up the room when she walked in. This was just an observation, I had NO idea this woman would change my life forever.

Neither of us knew the other was going through troubled times in our marriages. We really weren't that close to talk about such things.

My previous marriage broke up back in September of 1998. It actually broke up LONG before that, but we were going through the motions. Dee's broke up several months later.

We had a mutual friend from this locals chat room. The three of us became like The Three Musketeers. We would go to clubs, out to dinner, and of course to the chat room parties.

Dee and I became very close friends. I was going through the financial difficulty of a divorce for a man with two children involved. Dee was starting out as a woman alone in the world again. During this time we helped each other and learned to lean on each other a lot. Neither of us even had a thought of even going out on a date, much less spending the rest of our lives together. We did always say if we got remarried we both would have problems with the new spouses because of our very close opposite sex friendship.

We would get together and fix meals together, have conversation, and talk about each others woes in the world. I ran a small business. Dee was great at bookwork and I had NO idea, so she helped me out on that end. I would go to the grocery store, buy the buy one get one free items and give Dee the free one. We basically became VERY close friends who took care of one another and watched out for one another.

Dee and I met for lunch one weekday. It was a place that was a steakhouse that was opened during the day for lunch. We would meet every few weeks for lunch. We sat and had our short chit chat. I was self employed so it was easy for me to break away for an extended lunch, but Dee's time was limited.

Being a gentleman I always walked Dee to her car. We would always give each other our friendly hug and give each other the friendly “love ya hun”. To this day I STILL don't know why, but as we hugged, I felt the need to give her a kiss on the neck. This kiss changed my life. I felt a warmth go over my entire body. No, this was not a sexual thing. It was like a warmth of reassurance. It was like this person cares for you and you for her. Dee let out a soft, but audible “oh” and there was an obvious change in her body. I am not sure if it relaxed in reassurance, if it tensed up due to shock or what. I do know we looked at each other differently from that point on.

For the next few nights for me there was no sleep. I laid and stared at the ceiling all night asking WHY I felt the need to do that. After much thought it came to me. Randy, you LOVE this woman.

Now, this may be a long way to get started on this blog, but I want to explain something. A friend of mine once said the song, “She Believes in Me” was the GREATEST love song ever writen. The reason is because it doesn't just say “I love you” it tells WHY they love each other. This blog is to show WHY I am head over heels in love with the woman you know as DeeDee. The woman I know as my whole world. This is “In Honor of a Woman”.

Dee is my friend for number one. If Dee and I hadn't fallen in love and decided to spend out entire lives together we would still to this day be BEST friends bar none over anyone else. We still share that friendship today. We can sit down to a cup of coffee and talk away an entire morning. Right before Dee and I started dating Dee came down to my cabin in the woods and I fixed breakfast. We sat, eat, read the Sunday morning paper, and talked the morning away. It was actually MORE than the morning. Once we decided to get up we had sat and talked for six hours. Yes, we can STILL do this today. Now don't think for one minute Dee won't put a boot in my ass if it's needed. She has kicked me in the butt and made me get back up and go again MANY times. This is all part of friendship, It's not a BAD thing, it's a MUST. If she hadn't done this all along I would probably be in a ditch somewhere if even alive at all.

Dee is my confidant. There is NOTHING, good or bad I can't talk to Dee about. There is nothing she doesn't know about me. I can assure you if I DID think I had a secret from Dee, it's not one. She can read me like an open book. If she ask me a question, usually she already knows the answer. She knows my deepest feelings and my wants and desires in not just OUR lives together, but my personal life and the way I feel about myself.

Dee is STILL my girlfriend and she is STILL my lover. My dad offered me one SERIOUS piece of advice on marriage. He said, “son, when you find THE woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, don't EVER stop trying to impress her as you did when you asked her out for the very first time and above all else, never stop “dating” your wife” I still court Dee. That may sound like an old term, but let me assure you chivalry is NOT dead. WE may change, but chivalry doesn't.

Last and THE most imporatnt. Dee is my EVERYTHING. She is anything I need her to be. She has told me this all through our life together. If I need ANYTHING, good or bad Dee is there without question. I don't worry about if Dee will be by my side if something goes wrong. If I did something like rob a bank, Dee would be disappointed in me, not hesitate to TELL me so, but she would be standing beside me through it all.

Dee and I wil be married 17 years in August. My love for her is just as fresh as it was from day one. I never tire of her company. I am a truck driver. I see drivers all the time that stay on the road weeks at a time to stay away from their wives. I do a dedicated run that gets me home daily. I paid my dues and did the weeks at a time on the road to finally get this, but It was worth it.

When I leave to go to work each night my heart aches knowing I will be away from her, even for just a short time. Anytime she touches me in ANY way, even if her hand just brushes against mine by accident, she still sends a tingle over my body.

The day Dee and I got married we did the whole the man can't see the bride before the wedding. My mom was in our soon to be bedroom helping Dee get ready. I walked to the door, Dee opened the door JUST enough to stick her hand out. We locked pinky fingers. We assured each other we were ready for this major step. This was our pinky promise so to speak.

Back in 2009 I ended up in the hospital in a BAD way. They told me I could have a stoke or heart attack at any minute. This will change your life for sure. When they finally did let Dee see me for the first time since I had gotten to the hospital, she stood by my bedside. We once again interlocked pinky fingers and reminded ourselves of our pinky promise. For good or bad, we were there for each other. I am sure Dee was going to pieces, but there she was, my leaning post of life, my best friend.

I may add to this blog later on, but for now this is a base of what Dee means to me. This may sound mushy or weird for some man to do this, but this is MY way of showing not just that I LOVE Dee... but WHY.

Dee, my friend, my lover, my wife, my entire life. This is MY way of showing “In Honor of MY Woman”

Thank you for your love and thank you for giving ME the honor of guarding YOUR heart for the rest of ours lives.