From the time we’re born and as children growing up, we’re taught that love is the only thing that matters between two people. From the bedtime stories our parents read to us to the movies we watched, the ended was always something about the two main characters falling in love and living happily ever after. It was imprinted in our minds that as long as you love each other, everything will be okay.
Well, as most people realize when they get older and fall in love, this “fairy tale” love story isn’t the truth at all. In my experiences, yes true love exists, but it’s very difficult to maintain. As you may have guessed, I’m talking about my boyfriend and me. We’ve been together for five months (which I realize isn’t very long, but it just depends on the relationship) and I love him with all my heart. We fight and bicker all the time. I’ve never fought with a boyfriend before. I hate fighting, I hate arguing, yelling, cursing. I can’t handle it. So the fact that we fight so much just tears me apart.
Since I was a child I’ve always been a helper. I love helping people and making them happy. But now my boyfriend is $900 in debt overdrawn from his bank account alone, and it has thrown him into a serious depression the past few weeks. I don’t know how to help him. He’s too proud to ask anyone for help, even his parents. He doesn’t have enough money to put gas in his car to get to work but he won’t ask for a ride from anyone. I don’t know what to do. I love him dearly but he’s making poor choices with his life (not just about money) and I don’t know if I can be with him for much longer. I hate to think of this, I don’t know what I’ll be like without him. From the moment I met him I knew that I loved him and the realization that it may not work between us crushes me. I guess that regardless of what we were told in those fairy tale stories that we heard when we were little, love isn’t as powerful as it’s always made out to be and it takes more than just that to keep a relationship going.
