I need to talk about this for a bit. What exactly does one benefit from this emotion. Or what good does anyone benefit from this emotion. ~~~~~~~ I'm thinking~~~~I can't think of one. So why is it there? Why do so many live with it? It destroys relationships and themselves. I know the affects jealousy has on peoples lives. It ruins them. The real question than remains, can one control this emotion. The answer is yes. But it takes work and determination.
People who are jealous in nature are typically that way, which started at an early age. One's childhood. Your upbringing from birth and the teachings and examples set by your parents help make you who you are. The possible reasons being your parents not giving you the attention you needed, or watching them by their examples. Than you grow up into a non trusting world of lies, deception and being hurt by friends or a love one. And this is just your teenage years. Than you become an adult. You marry or get very serious with someone and bam! It happens again. Your lied to, or your partner has had an affair, or leaves you without feeling or emotion or without justification.
This is what life has taught most of us. So we build shields around ourselves to protect us from being hurt again. This is an automatic mind and body response trying to protect you from being hurt again. With these shields around you, you can't possibly love another. No way. Your not able to give this other person your soul, your heart and everything you have to offer. No way. Your scared. So you stay protected.
In that relationship you are so insecure your unable to trust. It's absolutely miserable. A world of paranoia. Don't think your the only one like this. This is a widespread disease, (jealousy.) Most of the world lives with some form of it.
I am going to help you understand and try to put these horrible mind destroying feelings to rest for you. Understand, when you start doubting or questioning your partner's loyalty. Think; use your God given knowledge to truly think it out. Don't think with emotion or with past events. Think with pure intelligence. Most of the time you will come to the conclusion, your being and idiot in even thinking these thoughts. Think it completely through. Don't act on a crazy emotion and don't let it escalate in your mind and start growing like a virus. Your imagination will run wild with it and will have a field day. Now you are lost. Come to grips. Don't believe your imagination. It isn't real. It's all make believe going on in this hidden world in your mind. Your imagination loves to create controversy. It thrives on it.
Your mind will try to make you believe this is real. Know it is not. Take back control of your thoughts and your judgments. Don't let your thoughts and crazy imagination run your life. When these bad thoughts occur throw them out of your mind. Don't listen to them, don't let them ponder away at you and grow. We all have a happy place we can go to in our minds, in our thoughts. Go there. Stay there for a while, and the bad will go away. Keep doing this over and over. Eventually it becomes easier and easier to control. You can't let your emotions run and control you life. You should be way beyond this by now. Your to old, to smart, to wise to let your mind believe things that aren't true.
Once you are able to control what you allow to enter your mind, you will wake up and feel like an entirely different person. The whole world will look different to you. People will see a different person in you. Even your facial expression will change. I've seen this with so many. I know this does happen. This new intellect you have acquired will allow you to be more picky and wiser going into your next relationship. The worse thing in the world is being accused of something you haven't done. That destroys relationships and destroys you as well. It's miserable living in fear of being hurt. But it's more miserable of making yourself believe it's going to happen before it does.
Jealousy is an emotion with no positive results. Understand you don't need it, don't want it and you are not going to let it ruin who you are. Don't let this emotion turn the beautiful, warm hearted person you are into someone no one could ever live with.
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