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I was thinking about this topic and this is what I came up with :) What I want in a woman: Original List: 1. Attractive 2. Nice Butt 3. Good Conversation 4. Funny 5. Good Cook that can cook with me 6. Gives me sex whenever I want it At Age 32: 1. Attractive 2. Nice Butt 3. Good Conversation 4. Funny 6. Gives me sex whenever I want it (Good Cook was removed, because I found I can cook as good as any woman out there - lol) At Age 42: 1. Attractive 2. Nice Butt 3. Good Conversation 4. Slightly Funny 5. Gives me sex whenever I want it At Age 52: 1. Moderately Attractive 2. Decent Butt 3. Good Conversation 4. Slightly Funny 5. Gives me sex whenever I want it At Age 62: 1. Hopefully Attractive 2. Hopefully not a wrinkled Butt 3. Gives me sex whenever I want it (Good Conversation was removed because I have already heard everything she has to say by the age of 62 and Slightly Funny is not needed anymore because I am sure that one of my other personailities is telling me funny stuff all the time anyway) At Age 72: 1. Hopefully Attractive 2. Gives me Sex whenever I want it (Butt criteria has been removed, because who the hell has seen a hot looking 72 year old butt) At Age 82: 1. Give me sex whenever I want it (Attractive has been removed, because if I can still have sex at 82 and know a women that is willing to give it to me when I am 82 - I will just be happy to get what I can :) )

Well, we heard from the bartenders in the last blog on their tips for guys. I figured that I would give my tips for you gals out there from the perspective of a guy. Feel free to critique me on any of these or even expand upon them…..due to my lack of dating experience I can only give some high level ideas on the topic J * Men are Not Mind Readers: Ok gals, this one should be really obvious, but for those of you that have not realized it; during the whole evolutionary process, men did not pick up the ability to read minds. Do: If a guy approaches you and you might be interested….. Give him a hint that you are might be, it makes further conversation easier. Don’t: Do not play the coy little cat and mouse game. This little game that some women think is cute is often a deterrent to future interaction. However, if you are not interested; there is always a nice way of letting them know. Of course some guys are rude and you have to take the rude approach…..but take the polite approach first. * Making the First Move: Do: I personally do not have any problem whatsoever with a woman approaching me and expressing interest. Some guys may find this a little forward…but I personally think it cuts through all the bullshit and you can actually start talking a little more clearly. I think the approach of walking up to them and saying “Hi” or making some lame compliment is a nice approach. Offer to buy them a drink……if they are a gentleman – he will decline and if he is interested, he will buy you one instead. Don’t: Making the First Move does not mean walking up and grabbing their ass or crotch to express your interest (well unless you are just looking for sex) – this second approach might get my attention – but would not get the desired response. * Talking about Previous Relationships: Do: If you feel the need to talk about previous relationships, leave it light. If the topic comes up you can say that you were in one, but it just did not work out or you can even say that you just currently are not in one. Leave it short and sweet. Don’t: This I believe talking about previous relationship is a NO-NO in almost any case. Most guys do not want to hear about your previous relationships, your previous sexual history, and “bad break ups” – especially when they first meet you. I think any of these talks can and should come a little later in the relationship. * Manners: Do: Treat this person that you are approaching with the same respect that you demand to be treated with. Think of the first meeting as an interview…you have only once to make your first impression and many people blow it the first time around. Don’t: Do not play the game with them of testing them to see how much crap they would put up with. I have seen this game played before and it hardly ever turns out well. * Conversation: Do: Do not be afraid to talk about yourself and the things that you like or enjoy. Believe me, if a guy is interested in getting to know you – he will want to hear all about you……but make this an interactive conversation. I know I have been stuck in positions where I ended up feeling like I needed to carry the conversation because I was not getting much interaction. I do not believe it was because they were not interested or maybe evaluating whether they were interested….but I almost feel like they felt like they did not have anything to add or did not want to share much. Don’t: Don’t just talk about yourself…..ask questions. Remember you are trying to get to know this person, so this conversation should be interactive. Also remember you are interviewing them too and they are trying to make a good first impression on you also. * A New Beginning: Do: Think of each time that you meet a potential person as a new beginning. Don’t: Make sure that you leave all the personal baggage of previous relationships at the door behind you and try to give this new person a chance to get their foot in the door. To many times, people tend to take out bad previous experiences on everyone else they meet afterwards. Overview: I can only speak from my personal observations….but I like it when a person: 1. Confident in the person that they are and presents themselves well 2. Can hold up their end of the conversation and talk about many topics 3. Likes to share little bits of information about themselves 4. Has no problem saying what is on their mind 5. Displays that they have goals and things that they want to achieve 6. A sense of humor is very cute and sexy A nice smile, nice hair, and a good hiney are always a plus J Ok that was my 2 cents……lets hear it now – lol.

I posted this on my other blog....but I felt the need to post it over here on this one too.....maybe something to think about folks.... Have you ever thought about the things that motivate people to do some of the things that they do? I suppose I do this on occasion, only because I tend to do over-analysis on just about every frickin thing that occurs in my life. I think that some people feel that some people really just have no regard for other people's feelings. I am not sure if they are just that selfish and just do not give a shit or if they are really that stupid and are that oblivious to how their actions affect others? I tend to lean towards the thinking that they are just selfish people and do not give a shit about others. I am one of those people that really open to very few people, but when I do; I think it is like a floodgate has been opened up with all sorts of things that go on through my head. I am sort of in a place in my life where I am evaluating myself a little more…..I think some have noticed I have been doing this for a while. I guess my point is, I am getting tired of people trying to get over on me……most of the time I see it coming and I am usually tactically prepared for it. But the ones that do manage to get through my shields have generally caused severe damage in many ways. Life sometimes feels like a huge game of chess where there are a couple old dudes playing and we all are different pieces on the board. I think on this chess board of life, I am the Rook. I think I am generally pretty good with being the Rook; he might not be the most powerful piece of the board but is pretty mobile going forward/backward and side to side. There is really too much pressure being the King, the Knights are not all that flexible and are stuck in the same routine, and in my opinion the Rook is just as good as the Bishop. I am finding that the pieces that I have underestimated in this little game are the pawns. The pawns are those little distracting and sometimes annoying little pieces on the board that if you are not careful will turn around and bite you on the ass. I am finding that just about anyone in my life that has ever caused me any grief or has annoyed me in any way have been the equivalents to a pawn. I have had supervisors in the past that were pawns (full of big ego because they knocked a couple bigger pieces off the board, but they are easily put into their place once you show them up). I have had relationships with pawns that disguised themselves as being another Rook. However, a pawn will generally show its true colors and show that it is not as flexible as could be…that first leap that they take is a big one…..but then they are not able to keep up as the game moves along. I have also found that pawns work together; pawns attract other pawns and it is generally better to just avoid pawns all together. What am I trying to say here?? Hmmmmm, you are free to take some guesses. I guess only those that have been inside my head can actually understand the thoughts that I am having right now. Really just venting builtup frustration............

I saw this on MSN and thought it was kinda entertaining.....so what do you all think. You agree with this junk or do you have better ideas for everyone? Bartenders’ best pickup advice - By Maggie Kim Few people have such a front-row seat to the dating and mating game as a bartender. Every night, these drink slingers watch would-be studs crash and burn, unlikely couples happily hook up, and more. Thanks to this experience, they’ve compiled a wealth of knowledge on the moves that work—not to mention those that bomb. Here, their best advice. Try this easy opener “I think the easiest way for a guy to start talking to a girl is to get next to her while she’s ordering her own drink and say, “That one’s on me.” Every girl will at least say thank you and if she’s interested, she’ll stick around and start a conversation.” —Gia Favia, Rino, Chicago Stand out with a signature drink “For both guys and girls, the meeting and hooking-up game is all about making an impression. I think finding a signature drink helps you stand out from the pack of gin and tonics and vodka sodas. Women who are sipping a bourbon definitely have a lot more mystique than one with a standard pink drink, just like a guy with a Manhattan seems more interesting than one with a beer. Find the drink that suits your style and personality and have a fun, cute story to go with it. Like ‘I drink Manhattans because my grandfather did.’ Anything that helps you stand out from the pack and start a conversation is a plus.” —Josh Wojcik, Chocolat Michel Cluizel, New York Stick to the three-minute rule “From what I’ve seen, a woman’s usually made up her mind about a guy in the first three minutes—and I’ve never seen anyone’s mind change after that. So guys should go in for the pickup, but if three minutes go by and she’s not warming up, they should cut their losses and move on.” —David Cerequas, Craftbar, New York Be sincere “From what I’ve seen, it’s the Year of the Geeks and Good Guys: It’s not about being suave or sexy, but about being genuine and attentive. Women are tired of being hit on by jerks whose heads swivel every time another pretty girl walks by. Give a woman your undivided attention, and you’ll stand out from the crowd.” —Terril Johnson, Shortstop, Los Angeles Look out for the Lemon Drop “You can definitely spot the girls who are looking for a good time and want to flirt: They usually come in groups and line up at the bar versus at a table to make it easier for guys to talk to them. And if you see them drinking Lemon Drops — a yellowish liquid in a shot glass garnished with a lemon that’s been dipped in sugar — it’s a sure sign that these girls just wanna have fun! It’s replaced the Cosmo as the drink of choice for the Sex and the City-type girls.” —Erica Jobe, Moda, New York Try talking about your troubles “There was one guy who got a call on his cell phone about his dog being injured by a car—it felt like every woman in the bar was trying to help him and comfort him. Now, I’m not recommending guys lie and say their pet was hurt, but the lesson here is don’t be afraid to tell a girl about a dilemma or problem you’re struggling with. Women like to help.” —Chris Lower, Gator’s, Minnesota Be a big spender “Splurge on a nice glass of champagne (think Cristal) and send it over to the woman you’re interested in. This works better than anything I’ve ever seen. It shows a guy’s not cheap and that he’s interested enough in the girl to spend some money on her. It’s smooth, impressive—and works almost every time!” —Joseph Barbour, Body English at the Hard Rock, Las Vegas