Q: Is there such a thing as love at first sight and, if so, what are the odds of its lasting?
A: Because love is such a complex matter, it is not likely that it occurs at first sight, although there is attraction at first sight, which may subsequently lead to love.
Q: Do opposites attract
A: Mostly on magnets. Homogamy, the word used to describe human attraction of people with similar interests, is the name of the game for humans. The more homogamy there is, the more likely humans will stay together and experience a successful relationship. Only one study supports the "complementary-needs theory," and it is regarded with suspicion in the academic community.
Q: Does living together before marriage help or hurt the marriage?
A: It depends on the motivation for the cohabitation. If cohabitation is to "try it before you buy it," there may be more commitment anxiety, which would therefore be more likely to hurt a subsequent marriage. If cohabitation is done for economic reasons, i.e. buying a house rather than paying for a wedding, it is more likely to help a marriage.
Q: How long should a couple date before having sex?
A: Couples should wait until some type of relationship has developed. Sex then has a context in which to occur and is more likely to be not just more fulfilling but also augment the relationship. Otherwise, it is just lust.
Q: How does a person know when he or she is in love?
A: As Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart said about pornography, "It is difficult to define, but I know it when I see it." The rush felt by the endorphins engulfing the body is difficult to miss. This is why love is called "chemistry."
Q: How does a person know when it's over?
A: A person knows it is over when there are no feelings for the other person. Even negative feelings for the other party indicate that the emotional entanglement is not over. A more tangible sign is when the ring is pawned.
Q: What is romance, anyway?
A: This is very difficult to operationalize. It is difficult to plan. It is also so individual. Unfortunately, it is media-driven for most people. What they see in a movie or a commercial is what becomes romantic for them.
Q: What are the three most important qualities of a lasting marriage?
A: Clear communication, respect and patience.
