Yesterday was my son's 11th birthday. He is the most important person in the world on his birthday. His dad keeps him most of the time. I get him after school. I offered to serve cupcakes after supper but his dad seemed too busy. So the plan was to serve them tomorrow. He picked him up and my daughter and I were to wait to celebrate the day after. Then I get a call that something has come up and he wants my son to come back over. When I ask my son what dad had to do he said that Ellen's brother went in the hospital. This is his new girlfriend. Well we went to Taco Bell to eat and he didn't eat well. He also got a little testy there but not real bad. Then we went home to have his cupcakes, he is having a real birthday cake and party this weekend. He had home work and after the cupcakes, I asked him to get to work on his homework. He became very oppositional and put up a lot of fights with my daughter and I. I finally called his dad so he can talk to him and find out that he saw some of his presents and was disappointed that he couldn't go on with the plans he and his dad had made. Now my belief is that a son with behavioral disorders in the middle of a divorce is to be treated as the main person on his birthday, not my boyfriend or any part of his family. Of course I was callused when I suggested that of his dad. How could his girlfriend's brother in the hospital be not as needing of him as his son. You know an 11 year old boy should be able to understand his position, right?
