I'll bet. Like, how do you keep from being jealous?
Ah, now that is a real question! In fact, that question has it's own
But is someone feels jealous, isn't that their problem?
No, it's everyone's problem, and successful resolution of the problem requires you to find out why they feel jealous.
If you treat your lovers as thoughbthey are interchangeable, they'll be jealous. If you don't take care to make your lovers feel wanted or needed, they'll be jealous. If you aren't careful to make it clear to all of your partners that you value them, you won't keep any of them for long.
Sometimes, it's easy, especially when you take a new partner, to forget yuor existing partner in the rush and excitement of exploring a new lover. In fact, some people even have a name for that giddy, infatuated stage of a new relationship; they call it "New Relationship Energy" or "NRE"
That's when everyone involved is particularly prone to jealousy. There aren't any cure--alls to ensure that your partners never feel jealous, off course, but it helps to make a point to pay attention to everyone, to include everyone in the majority of your activities--you know, to be considerate.
If you were raised with the idea that if your partner is looking at someone else, it's because you aren't enough, then you prpbably won't be happy in a polyamorous relationship until and unless you can unlearn that idea and understand why it isn't true.
People do have the capacity to love more than one other person; there isn't a magical switch inside our brains that says once you love one person, the switch had been flipped and you can't love somebody else. Any partner who has more than one child knows that it is possible to love more than one person.
But that doesn't mean that those people are expendable or interchangeable. People with more than one chilld also know that their love for each child is unique and irreplaceable. Similarly, people in a healthy polyamorous relationship know that their love for each person in that brelationship is unique and irreplaceable--and knowing that drives away jealousy.
