I am learning a lot in this world of BDSM. Thanks to the wonderful advice of quite a few friends, I am learning quickly. There are a lot of questions that churn through my mind but I have a great arsenal of friends to learn from. Just in the past week, what I have learned has once again changed my point of view in this lifestyle.
This is not to say that I have changed my mind what I desire or want for myself as a slave. I just know better now how to go about achieving those goals and acquiring what I need to fulfill my desires. It amazes me how much logic and common sense is involved in the decision making with BDSM. The biggest obstacle I have found in discovering this new purpose for myself is my own preconceived notions and complications.
For example, I first assumed that all masters were Masters. They’re not. Most of them are ordinary jack asses who want nothing more than to use whoever they can. A master/mistress is just someone in charge of the relationship. They do not become Master/Mistress until they have shown themselves worthy.
Once I knew to be more careful who I referred to as Master, I learned that there is more to a Master than sharing the same wants and desires. Unfortunately, you have to find someone that is relationship material first. Yes, this is something you would have to do with any match but of course with the BDSM half added to it now.
Now I’m finding that it is even less complicated. My latest dilemma was this. How could I have a Master and not be owned? How could I be owned and not have a collar? Without being owned how do I tell others that I’m not available? See.. sounds complicated. But it’s really not. I choose who I talk to and who I’m available to whether I’m owned or collared or not. A Master can be someone that simply has control over you because you wish it. They do not have to own you – I personally am just in training with my Master. We are learning how to work together and if we can.
I cannot wait for the next ever so simple revelation. It makes it better for me every day. Also, if this doesn’t sound all that great and just doesn’t make sense, it’s because I’m not feeling well. I’ll proof read it once I’m feeling better and straighten it up.
And a big thankyou to some fubar friends - Iron mountainman! and Lady K (~Twisted Goddess~)
