Was wining and dining some clients the other evening when the discussion turned toward today's prevalent sexual attitudes. Imagine my suprise when a very attractive lady that was with us freely admitted that she regularly "hooked up". She said that it is perfectly acceptable to have one nighters and casual sexual encounters. Her caveat, however, was unless she liked the guy. If she liked him, she wouldn't sleep with him for some time.
So, this begs the question for the lost art of seduction. Is romance and seduction a thing of the past? Do women not appreciate a man treating them with respect, manners, and bringing flowers? Listening to their likes/dislikes? Should we forgo the "courting" dance and be more aggressive and abrupt? It has been my experience that being a romantic gentleman usually leads to 1. scorn 2. loss of the woman as she finds someone else who is more aggressive or 3. she immediate sees the romantic gestures as more than they are (i.e. trying to make a long-term relationship).
So are those of us romantics left beeing foolish? Should we just forget seduction and go straight to f**king? As for the relationship issue, I won't speak for others. For myself, however, I prefer to not write the ending of a book. I believe in reading one page at a time and seeing how the story develops.
Maybe all the above is merely my perception. Perhaps it all happens merely because I'm not good looking and women find other excuses?
