I'm inspired to write this blog..because it agrravates me that people I know, love and care about end up in relationships that didn't have any grounds to begin with. They say Trust is earned...and I'm a true believer in that! I mean don't get me wrong..I don't automatically distrust a person. I'll trust a person in the beginning just as much as I trust the average stranger - which isn't much by the way!! Trust is not be given freely..to do so - is down right stupid.
Now how does this all fit into what I started to write about in the beginning?! A WHOLE Fucken Lot actually!! Why do people go from one relationship...right into another, without a fucken grace period?! I mean..whatever happened to the whole "gettin to know you stage"?! Why go from one fucked up relationship and move right into another, whether the next relationship is fucked up or not - why get into it at all?! Why not just take a breather, relax, enjoy life, live each moment a day at a time and let it all come to you. Why try and fill that void with another relationship....like that's going to make your life all better. Are we that desperate, that we consistly have the need to have to be with someone to make life meaningful?!
No one person aside from yourself..is ever going to make your life worth living. Life is what you make of it..and it can be as bad as you want it to be - or as good as you want it to be. At the same time - it's not given to you on a silver platter! You have to work at your life to make it what you want. If you want to be a success..you surround yourself with successful people or a successful environment...if you want a beautiful life..surround yourself with beautiful people.
And this whole faith and believing in someone has everything to do with a relationship. If I was interested in someone and that person didn't have it in themselves to have faith in me or believe in me...then guess what - that's not the person to be with! Why waste your breath and energy trying to manipulate it so that it brings out the desired result that you want - that being making the person believe in you. If they didn't beleive in you in the beginning...trust me, somewhere along the lines of your relationship - something is going to come up..and your back to the whole lack of faith situation again. Get over it! Move on...be with someone who can believe in you from the start..rather than believing in you cause you used "Magick" to make it so. Magick for your info..the powers that be...man, I don't care whether you're a believer, a practitioner or whatever..magick is not meant to fix everything in your life!! For fucks sake...shit happens...it's a part of life! But you can't expect to conjur shit to fix every little thing. It doesn't work that way - now you're just abusing the powers!!
Yeah...yeah..yeah..I sound so fucken negative right?! Whatever happended to giving the person the benefit of the doubt right?! Well..guess what...that's what the whole getting to know you stage is all about. It's about giving the person, the relationship the benefit of the doubt...but if you're going to skip all that and move right in to the whole serious shit - then you're headed down a very rocky road my friend! And...while we are on that subject - what one does in the beginning of any relationship...speaks for what will happend somewhere along the lines in that relationship..hint hint...the lack of faith issue. You need to go into relationships with both your eyes..and your heart. Think with your heart...don't confuse it with that "wet" feeling you get in between your legs when you think of the person or when you're with that person. That's lust people...big difference. Ok..so they have some good traits that the others who preceded him/her didn't have - but is that enough to jump the gun?! And don't give me the whole speil of I like him / her..and besides I think I can help them somewhere in their lives - that's short for..okay so they're not relationship material...but the wet feeling in between my legs doesn't quite give a damn, I'll give it a go anyways.
Hey..it's your fucken life! Get into it however you want to - I'm just the other person who cares so fucken much to try and make you see what you can't cause your too damn "hooked"!! In the end when it doesn't work out...and they break your heart...for the umpteenth time - I'm the girl who is gonna be there to say "I TOLD YOU FUCKEN SO"...then give you a shoulder to cry on..LOL.
